Divorced, Desperate and Delicious by Christie Craig
In this book it mentions that the mother AND grandmother had both been married some 6 times – or were about to embark on their sixth marriage. Which made me think. Just what was the divorce rate like in the US? And was 6 marriages a very unusual sum? Or not?
So I trolled the trusty internet and found the various government databases such as the census and looked up the US divorce rates. It made interesting reading, so I am adding some tables below.
Firstly – the divorce rate for the very first marriage that anyone has is now over 40%.
- The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
- The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
- The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
So by the time you come to your 3rd marriage it really is hope over evidence bearing in mind that over 70% end in a further divorce!
I then thought well, just who are these people who marry more than once. Turns out that they – perhaps o surprise considering – were older rather than younger people. According to the census (http://www.census.gov/prod/2011pubs/p70-125.pdf), the percentage of people being married 3 or more times is at age 18 to 19 years – 0; 20 to 24 years – 0; 25 to 29 years – 0; 30 to 34 years 0.8; 35 to 39 years 1.9; 40 to 49 years 3.8; 50 to 59 years 5.9; 60 to 69 years 6.2; 70 years and over 4.4%.
And yet the census publication also states that marriages are most susceptible to divorce in the early years and after 5 years, approximately 10 percent of first marriages overall had ended in divorce. How quickly do people remarry? In 2009, first marriages which ended in divorce lasted a median of 8 years for men and women overall. The median time from marriage to separation was shorter—about 7 years. Half of the men and women in all of the races and Hispanic-origin groups who remarried after divorcing from their first marriage did so within about 4 years.
Here are some very interesting statistics that show you where, if you don’t want to get divorced, where you should live. And that yes, the figures also show, that once past that dangerous 5 year marker, the older you are now, the more likely you are to stay married for longer. Take the 10th anniversary. If you married between 1960 and 64 you had a 93% chance of reaching this goal, whereas if you married between 1990-94 (the worst record) you had only an 87.1% of reaching this goal in your first marriage.
Divorce Statistics in America for Marriage
|State with the lowest divorce rate
||Massachusetts (2.4 per 1,000 population)
|State with the highest divorce rate
||Nevada (9.1 per 1,000 population)
|Percentage of US population that is divorced
|Mean age at first divorce
||For Males: 30.5 yrs.
For Females: 29 yrs.
|Median age at second divorce
||For Males: 39.3 yrs.
For Females: 37 yrs.
|Median number of years people wait to remarry after their first divorce
||For Males: 3.3 yrs.
For Females: 3.1 yrs.
|Average length of divorce proceedings
Bearing all this in mind we still find that some women in the
US never marry and more only marry the once.
- Never married – 27.2%
- Married once – 57.5%
- Married twice – 12.1%
- Married 3+ times – 3.2%
So this book is the first in a series about divorced women and their lives after divorce. They are ‘desperate’ because they want to date again and are scarred by their divorces and first marriages. They also, some of them at least, have really cute dogs and then they get involved with really sexy policemen.
I must say that I find policemen in uniforms are much higher on the sexy scale than plain clothes. I have met several just recently here in the UK and they are uniformly tall (but then I am very short) with nice broad shoulders. They look really hunky and are charming and with a good sense of humour too – at least those whom I’ve met and not all young either – the Superintendant was well over 40… So I get why they might like them – I guess under-cover cops have that added essence of danger due to their circumstances. But plain clothes – well they could be anybody. Except that policemen, like firemen, need to keep fit – or should if they want to pass their physical exams – and at least when young, have a good physique with nice muscles.
Delicious of course refers to what the men think of the women – the new men in their lives that is – and of course, these are not really you and me with all our faults but they have good skin, nice curves and pretty faces at the very least. Our fantasy of what we might look like – sigh…
I checked out the author’s blog – just to find out about her daughter’s feet and she looks a fun person – just as her books are a fun read. Not serious, and great to read when you are having a duvet day! 4 stars and I’ll read some more in due course – when my ‘to read’ pile gets a little smaller…